Poly Friends Gathering
Yesterday, I met up with Caifeng, Yishan, Raymond, Kelvin & Peifen for a poly friends gathering at Sakae Sushi and Hagen Daz. It has been a while since I last saw them, so it was great to see them.
Yishan showed us her photos that she had taken during her trip to Melbourne last week. The photos were well-taken (makes me want to go there too, but no money .Haha.). As we were talking about tours & holidays, while enjoying our ice-cream,
Caifeng & Kelvin mentioned to us that Caifeng’s parents do not allow the couple to go on a holiday tour together. As heard from Caifeng, her parents will only allow the both of them to travel together when they have their Chinese customary wedding. Having met Caifeng’s parents before, I could tell that her parents were very traditional & protective over her. In fact, she has never taken an aeroplane before.
I told Kelvin that despite the fact that his relationship with Caifeng is 4 years already, it could also be the following reasons that make the parents not want to let their daughter travel with him alone.
They are afraid that the couple may do sex before marriage during the tour, and Kelvin may not be able to bear the responsibility should accident happen.
The parents feel that they have not known Kelvin well enough, as a result, are afraid to let him take care of Caifeng.
These are some of the ideas that we came up with to help the couple solve this problem.
Going on a group tour together with friends.
Buy tickets for the whole family & themselves, but put a different destination for the tickets for the family members & themselves. If the family asks how you got the tickets, just tell them, you won them from a lucky draw.
Kelvin should try to go to Caifeng’s house at least once a week & have dinner with her parents, so they can know him better, therefore become more willing to let Caifeng go on a tour with him.
Buy the air tickets first, tell the parents they are going on the trip on the eve of the departure.
Caifeng should try to convince her parents that Kelvin can take good care of her.
Actually, in my view, I feel that in this 21st century, these things can be done. You just have to be responsible & take necessary precautions, and everything should be alright.
Yishan showed us her photos that she had taken during her trip to Melbourne last week. The photos were well-taken (makes me want to go there too, but no money .Haha.). As we were talking about tours & holidays, while enjoying our ice-cream,
Caifeng & Kelvin mentioned to us that Caifeng’s parents do not allow the couple to go on a holiday tour together. As heard from Caifeng, her parents will only allow the both of them to travel together when they have their Chinese customary wedding. Having met Caifeng’s parents before, I could tell that her parents were very traditional & protective over her. In fact, she has never taken an aeroplane before.
I told Kelvin that despite the fact that his relationship with Caifeng is 4 years already, it could also be the following reasons that make the parents not want to let their daughter travel with him alone.
They are afraid that the couple may do sex before marriage during the tour, and Kelvin may not be able to bear the responsibility should accident happen.
The parents feel that they have not known Kelvin well enough, as a result, are afraid to let him take care of Caifeng.
These are some of the ideas that we came up with to help the couple solve this problem.
Going on a group tour together with friends.
Buy tickets for the whole family & themselves, but put a different destination for the tickets for the family members & themselves. If the family asks how you got the tickets, just tell them, you won them from a lucky draw.
Kelvin should try to go to Caifeng’s house at least once a week & have dinner with her parents, so they can know him better, therefore become more willing to let Caifeng go on a tour with him.
Buy the air tickets first, tell the parents they are going on the trip on the eve of the departure.
Caifeng should try to convince her parents that Kelvin can take good care of her.
Actually, in my view, I feel that in this 21st century, these things can be done. You just have to be responsible & take necessary precautions, and everything should be alright.
Comments
it takes a long time to build trust, and only one accident to break it... so why not make it a family gathering, or trip with friends? This way, you could bond with frens or family, and help build trust here....
21st century ...parents should actually beleaf their own kid tat means caifeng parents should have faith in their kid.If they dont tat means they actually dont bleaf their own up bringing of the kids
on the other hand of cox caifeng must take nec.. precaution la
HeehKeeee
:)