Monday, September 29, 2014

My NACLI Course On Emotional Intelligence

I had signed up for this course about a month, with the aim to improve my emotional intelligence, and I am glad to say that I have fulfilled what I wanted to gain from the lecture, besides the 4 learning units that I gained for the Certificate of Community Development, which brings me 23 learning units to attain it.


The 1st day of the lecture , we had to recite this success creed together in a group before we were allowed to leave for the day. This success creed, I think, I have been practising it, but I must apply more to my daily life, which means cutting out of negativity, or letting other people’s actions, which are negative affect me, and must be more lovable.

In the lecture, our lecturer also shared the importance of taking deep breaths when facing difficult situations or negative situations, and this techinque actually helps to connect your body to your mind, and the power to change the thought from a negative to a positive one.

Our lecturer also impart to us not to use the word “TRY” during the duration of the course. Those who said this were fined $1 for each time the word is said. I was given the task to be the treasurer. I must say this gave me the group closer together as I initiated to exchange the contacts of our course mates and create a whatsapp group to keep in touch together or going to other NACLI courses together.


On the 2nd day, I learnt that the human body gets tired 12 hours after the midpoint of the sleep cycle. What does this mean?

Let’s say I sleep from 12am to 6pm, the midpoint of my sleep cycle will be at 3am. Therefore the zzzz monster will be setting in at 3pm. It is important to know this as you will then know how to schedule your tasks.

We also learnt to set goals & objectives and setting out to achieve it by being specific, measurable & making your goal stretchable. I am glad to say I have been practising it.

We ended off the course by all of us, singing this song, “The Power of The Dream” by Celine Dion, which I thought was an apt description for we have learnt in the two days.



It was very nice to have known this batch of course mates, especially the 8 of them from Radin Mas YEC, which meant that I was not the only the young grassroots leader in the course. =)

Sunday, September 21, 2014

Eventful September

The fortunate thing about having a 5 day work week is I always look forward to my weekend. This is especially so after an eventful month at work.

Voice Art – 7 September 2014

It has been a while since I last sang, and this was supposed to be the location for the next VES volunteer gathering in October. However, due to the fact that they would be holding the singing competition at around the same time, we had to change our plans.


Was there with Meiqi, Jasmine & Jia Jie. We did not manage to catch up with JJ’s mum, Linda this round. It appears that my friends enjoyed the experience at the KTV very much and am looking forward to the next one soon.

BBQ at ECP – 13 September 2014



I would like to thank Chloe & Gonnie for organising this BBQ & inviting me along. It was indeed fun and I got to catch up with some friends whom I have not met up for a while, for example, Lance & Zhencong, and met up with some new ones, Li Gyan, Shirley, Dennies & Wayne.

In the BBQ, I got to know that Roy used to work in the People’s Association & knew my liaison officer, Juncai. As the saying goes, “The world is small, Singapore is even smaller, you never know who knows who, therefore it is advisable not to do anything wrong. “

Meet Up With My Poly Mate – 20 September 2014

This was arranged in super quick fashion as it has been quite a while, several years in fact, that I met up with my poly mate of Year 2, Xinhui. It is always good to catch up in person, as I have only managed to catch up with most of my school friends through their Facebook status updates as some of them have moved on to the next chapter of their lives. It was a good catch up session and hope that we can catch up soon again.

Catching F1 Qualifying Round with my IRAS volunteer friends – 20 September 2014

A yearly event since last year, where I caught the F1 Practice session with Elsa at Penisula Excelsior Hotel last year. This year, we changed our location to UOB Plaza 1, Si Chuan Dou Hua Restaurant as the hotel pricing for the buffet was highly marked up due to F1.

This was my 1st time up to the restaurant and I must say the food is not bad, and the price was quite affordable considering the number of dishes we ordered and we really had a good window seat to catch a good view of the action. =)


I hope my friends enjoyed themselves, because I did. =)

How To Play A Political Game In Office?

I am having a busy month in September. It did not help that my work deadline is coming up in end November. Yet some colleagues are still either taking MCs & urgent leave as they please, leaving people needing to clean up their work for them, or indulging political moves to drive out a colleague, who was requested to come back to work for the company 6 months ago, as the “politicians” claimed that they were too busy and could not cope & it was to help us to have cover for a colleague who always take MCs or urgent leave with shocking regularity, only to kick this returning colleague out of the firm by saying they cannot work with her due to “communication problems” when it is pretty obvious that the person who got kicked out was not aware that she was about to be kicked out until she was in my boss’ office.

I wonder the so called “communication problems” was masked by the fact that her superiors have made mistakes in their work & it was discovered by this colleague. To cover up they used this to ask my boss to kick her out.

To think that these “politicians” have told my boss that they are monitoring another colleague, with similar punctuality,taking MC & urgent leave with shocking regularity as mentioned above, that if she does not improve soon, they will ask my boss to get her to go soon.

My take on this is hopefully the person mentioned in the 1st paragraph of this article wakes up from her routine, otherwise it will definitely adieus to her soon as well.

Saturday, September 13, 2014

Interesting Happenings Since I Collected My SG Enable Pass

It has been about 2 months since I collected my SG Enable Public Transport Pass, which allows me to have unlimited bus & train rides capped at $60 per month with a hybrid pass and discounted bus fares for certain bus services.

Since getting the card, I have cutting down on unnecessary taxi rides, taking cabs when I felt that it was necessary as my transport bill is about 75% of what I spent previously.

I have used the card on Express services, Bus 74e & Express 502. My bus captain friend, Mr Lim, who drives Service 74e showed me that when I tap my card, it shows that a senior citizen has travelled on his bus. That’s funny, as it means I should have my hair bleached. Another interesting thing that I discovered was if I were to travel for more than 7.2km, the fare is capped at 7.2km.

I found that hanging a lanyard to display my pass helps, as the bus captain is able to see my pass clearly & also some people will automatically give up their seats to me. However, it has to be said, those people who gave up their seats to me are the senior citizens or Pioneer Generation Package recipients. The youths are mostly engaged in their tablets or smartphones.

The card is also my saviour at some traffic lights, as if I tap the card to the sensor, I am given more time to cross the road.

The card has allowed me to add on to the list of bus routes that I know too. I recently mastered Services 105, 106 & 190 and enhanced my knowledge of Express 502, as I had been stressed at work recently and wished to be alone. This was definitely a good way to destress by looking at the beautiful environment. I hope to cover Service 123, the amended Service 853 & Service 85 soon. =)



Saturday, August 23, 2014

My Enjoyments For The Week


The IRAS Volunteer Group Gathering – 16 Aug 2014

Our once in  two months gathering arranged by me & fellow volunteer, Meiqi was at Marina Square. It was a gathering of multiple firsts.

  • A gathering that has us moving from place to place. We moved from Manhattan Fish Market at Marina Square to TCC Citylink then to the open area outside Citylink Mall.
  • It was the 1st time we chatted till 1am plus and we would like to thank Helen for sending us home with her car.
  • A multiple celebration for gathering, Pauline’s birthday & advance celebration for Mooncake Festival


Till our next gathering on 11 Oct =)

Liquids Café With Xiuling & Wendy – 17 Aug 2014

We continued the café adventure where we left off in 22 Jun. This time, we explored Liquids Café, which was located opposite Nee Soon Camp. I thought the food was great and we were virtually left undisturbed for about an hour plus as we had the whole café to ourselves. It was definitely nice catching up with them.

Some of you asked me for the address, it is at 56 Sembawang Rd. Buses 167,169 & 980 will take you there.

Performance By The Pipa Quartet with Angela – 22 Aug 2014

I was glad to be invited to catch this performance by The Pipa Quartet by Angela to end off my hectic week.

It is definitely a good form of relaxation, and I never knew that a pipa can play latest hit songs from our favourite singers too. I must say I am impressed especially on the front row seat of the performance on my first visit to SOTA. =)

Wretched Week

It has been a wretched week for me so far. Even my mum could tell that I was feeling rather tense and stressed up recently and have encouraged me to keep a diary and try to relax a little.

It has been a while since I physically keep a diary and pen my thoughts in there as I did not see the need to do so. Although keeping a blog is about the same as keeping a diary, but certain things, like private or work matters are best kept to a minimal as I had bad experiences before of sharing my thoughts online, and receiving brickbats for what I have written or gag order served from my boss not to share work related matters on the world wide web.

    • Public Transport Woes

I have gotten my SG Enable Card for about a month plus. So far, the fellow commuters & bus captains have been pretty helpful upon seeing my pass. They would assist me to look for a seat. 1 of the bus captains on my frequent bus service, whom I have known since my school days, even showed me that the symbol on the fare stage machine that the SG Enable pass alerts him by showing him the symbol of a senior citizen, which I thought was funny.

However, the same cannot be said for a fellow commuter that I was on board the bus on Thursday. I had been on the service 74 and someone actually offered me a seat in the area meant for young, old & the disabled. After a few stops, there was a child and another commuter, who I believe is not the parent of the child, as their races were different,  boarded the bus. She saw me playing on my tablet and shouted at me to give up the seat to the little child. I just shouted back, I am a handicapped passenger. If she had been talking nicely to me I would consider giving up the seat as I was alighting in a few stops. Her graciousness / courtesy left a bitter taste in my mouth.

  • Bad Service

I encountered a case of terrible service by my area’s town council about a month back. They took close to a month to replace a faulty light in one of the lifts in my block, after I made several calls to the town council & highlighted at my RC monthly meeting. To me this is totally  unacceptable, especially my town council is supposed to be a 5 star rating town council.

Being in a professional service line for the entirety of my working life, I think this will cause the customers/ potential customers to walk away from you. The firm will lose money. I wonder why some people can work so “efficiently” till I need to ask his manager to push him to work. Or is the 5-star rating just a window dressing grade?

Hopefully, the new Municipal Council announced by PM Lee can reduce such incidents.

  • Work

My work has been okay. My company has been selected to be in the pilot scheme of the e-Form C. I am glad to say that it is progressing well. Hopefully, with this system, we can still meet the deadline

However, the same cannot be said for the bunch of colleagues who have always been late for work. Even though a group warning has been given, these people still are persistently late or frequently taking MC. Sometimes I feel that my boss is too soft hearted. As she is not firm enough, people would take advantage. For example, coming to office an hour later than the official timing. Although my boss has given us a 30 min grace period, in view of the frequent train delays & breakdowns recently, I still feel that it is the responsibility of an individual to be punctual for your appointment or work. If you are going to be late, please have the courtesy to inform as a workplace is a value chain, one person’s output will be another person’s input.




Wednesday, August 20, 2014

National Day Parade Preview

It has been a while once again, since I updated this blog of mine. It used to be done almost everyday, till to weekly, till now its only done when I am free. It has been good to know that my blog still has people that wishes to read more about what has been happening to me, even after so many years that I set up this blog, which I believe was 8 years ago.

National Day Parade

I had the honour to attend the National Day Parade, albeit it was the Preview for the 1st time. It was definitely very different from watching the Parade from the comforts of your home and live at the float. I am glad that my VES volunteer friends were able to join me after my parents were unable to make it. For more photos, kindly refer to my Facebook Page.





Tuesday, July 15, 2014

Walking Bus Guide

Some of you may not have known that I used to have a hobby that some people that find it a waste of time, which is travelling on buses and learning new routes when I was schooling. Although it has been quite a while since I learnt the bus routes, I find my knowledge is still pretty useful especially nowadays train breakdowns & delays are pretty common nowadays.

Here are the list of routes that I am familiar with, with some updated ones.

Bus services with full route knowledge

  • 7 Bedok Interchange to Clementi
  • 16 Bedok Interchange to Bukit Merah
  • 22 Ang Mo Kio to Tampines
  • 24 Ang Mo Kio to Changi Airport
  • 25 Ang Mo Kio to Bedok
  • 27 Hougang Central to Changi Airport
  • 53 Bishan to Changi Airport
  • 54 Bishan to New Bridge Rd
  • 55 Bishan to Marine Parade
  • 56 Bishan to Marina Centre
  • 70 Yio Chu Kang to Shenton Way
  • 70M Yio Chu Kang to Marina Centre
  • 72 Yio Chu Kang to Tampines
  • 73 Ang Mo Kio to Toa Payoh
  • 74 Hougang Central to Bouna Vista
  • 74e Hougang Central to Bouna Vista
  • 81 Tampines to Serangoon
  • 88 Pasir Ris to Toa Payoh
  • 107 Hougang Central to Shenton Way
  • 111 Ghim Moh to Marina Centre
  • 116 Hougang Central to Serangoon
  • 128 Yio Chu Kang to Shenton Way
  • 132 Hougang Central to Bukit Merah
  • 147 Hougang Central to Clementi
  • 162 Yio Chu Kang to Shenton Way
  • 162M Yio Chu Kang to Marina Centre
  • 165 Hougang Central to Clementi
  • 261 Ang Mo Kio to Ang Mo Industrial Park 1
  • 272 Bukit Merah to Telok Blangah Way
  • 315 Serangoon to Serangoon North Ave 5
  • 317 Serangoon to Brewick Dr
  • 851 Yishun to Bukit Merah
  • 853 Yishun to Geylang Lor 1
  • 854 Yishun to Bedok
  • 857 Yishun to Suntec City

The other routes that I have partial knowledge are not updated here. =)

Help Help Help

Recently, I knew a gal online through the Ok Cupid. It has been a while since I know people online & come out with them as I feel that I do not really meet by someone whom I have chemistry with, or some people minded about my physical disability and did not wish to continue their friendship with me. To me, its their loss. I still made some female friends in this site, whom I am still in contact with.

I was quite surprised that this gal was pretty keen to meet me, especially so less than a week after having got my number. I was wondering why. After having got my number, she started to whatsapp or sms me, asking when we could meet. It did not occur to me that she had depression before and I had appeared to look like her ex boyfriend (according to what she told me when we met.) She also told me that her guy friend, who saw my profile, told her this. This was something that made me a little uncomfortable on hearing this.

Since that meeting, she had been trying to ask me out, as she feels that this friendship could develop further. To me, I was initially willing to give it a try, but on seeing her keeping on messaging me during my office hours and expecting an almost immediate reply and her behaviour when she saw my tagged photos that I took with a group of female friends (She deleted me from her Facebook since this incident), when she is not even my girlfriend make me realise that she could just be a lonely soul, that treats me as a substitute for her ex-boyfriend. I suspected her depression could be back too, after she lost her job as a nurse recently and she is an attention seeker

Another thing which I did not like about her was she always wanted to meet at the last minute, and cancel as she please. Friends who know me would know that I am a person, with many commitments. Work, family, RC activities and my relaxation activity, KTV keeps me occupied. I think this could be one of the reasons why I am not suffering from depression, as I am always so busy and I keep myself happy when I do things.

Therefore, after much deliberation, I have taken the drastic step to block her from my whatsapp, sms & phone calls as I feel that I deserve better gals than this and I should not be controlled upon what I want to do. This is the 1st time I am doing so.

To this person, my advice is to seek help on your depression, otherwise it will affect your future job, wherever you are and whatever you do.

Busy Busy Me

It has been a while since I update this  blog of mine. I have been rather busy with my work and other activities that required my attention.

Form C-S & Form C e-filing

My boss has entrusted me with this project to liaise with IRAS on their new Form C e-filing portal. It was supposed to start on 11 July, however, according to the authorities, the start date has been delayed. I am actually looking forward to this as this would give us an additional time to file the income tax returns for our clients by 15 days.

Changes to management in my workplace

Due to a partner’s withdrawal in the associated firm, my boss has placed more emphasis on our punctuality at work and performance at work. This message, although directed at the latecomers at my place, and a particular staff, who always complained that she has to do my boss’ personal stuff & mundane work tasks ,  meant that my returning colleague and myself have to take on  more responsibilities. To me, working means that you have to do whatever your boss asks you to, unless your boss ask you to do something that you will feel that its an insult to you.
As for punctuality issues, I feel that it was right for my boss to emphasise on this to everyone, although she was egged into action after the associate firm’s new managing partner had always commented on us disturbing their staff during working hours & some of us being fashionably late, reporting half an hour to 2 hours late, and giving funny excuses like I need to do my hair, took the wrong bus etc. Since my boss’ emphasis, not much change has been seen. Maybe it is time for some stronger action to be taken.
RC Treasurer Duties
I have been working on this duty since July last year. Recently, one of my assistants have decided to step down due to heavy work commitments, while the other had been lazing around for far too long. I have been handling all the paperwork and doing the accounts on a monthly basis for the past six months. I had been requesting for a new assistant to come in. My prayers were answered at the last meeting, when a new observer, armed with accounting knowledge has decided to step in and help out. My RC chairman and Constituency Manager also spoke to the assistant, who agreed to help me with the paperwork as well.
My mum had not been in favour of me joining the Grassroots as she feels that I should focus more on looking for a life partner, getting a flat when I reach 35 or completing my ACCA. A life partner is something that I want but not something which I have control over. I do not agree with her that if I were to complete my ACCA, gals will come swarming to me. I feel that they may be swarming to me because of my money.
For my ACCA, I have stopped since I have gained admission to the SIATP, Accredited Tax Practitioner. As I have been failing continuously since passing my Advanced Tax Paper, I thought a professional tax qualification will do me good as I am not cut out for audit due to my physical disability and I have no intention to venture into a minefield with the accounting & audit standards.
For the flat, my viewpoint your flat is an asset after you have paid for it. You should never pay for your asset when you are going into your retirement. As my CPF savings is not that much to finance a flat since I started out late, I feel that I should wait for my Ms Right to come along, although mum has spoken that she will help me with the repayment of the flat if needed.
VES Appreciation Ceremony 2014
This yearly event is something that I always look forward to. I am glad that my team, Serangoon CC is one of the Top 3 CCs once again and I would like to take the opportunity to congratulate Jason, Jasmine & Gary for winning the Outstanding Volunteer Awards & Commendation Awards. Here are some photos for your enjoyment.
eF_151eF_156Grp photo (VES Volunteers)Paul Lee