Questions?

Was inspired to write this article due to many things happening around me recently.

1. Do you think that a family member should sideline his other family members just because that particular member was not too well off, or in their own words, a second class family member?
2. Do you feel that 2 long-time friends / close friends can come up with a stupid excuse / fly aeroplane to skip a meet up or a happy occassion of the other party due to because they wanted to save money for the event?

Examples for Question 1 will be: -

A family member, B had fallen down at home several weeks ago. C was not aware of this until Relative D talked about it in a conversation. C went home and told his parents that B had fallen at home some weeks ago. His mum & him went to visit B , but when we reached there, C and his mum was asked by Relative F what they were doing at their place? It seems like C & his parents are not part of the family and had no right to visit B. If u r C or C's parents what would do? For me does it mean that I have to seek permission from F in order to visit B?

Family Member L was admitted to hospital for an illness. Family members M & N, who are living with L did not inform Brother C & his family. C was informed by Sister G, who was not staying with L that L was hospitalised. When C's wife called up to L's home, M questioned her about how C's wife came to know about L's hospitalisation. M said that it was a minor illness. To me, it just goes to show that M does not treat C as his sibling and wanted to show L that C was not concerned about L at all, which is not the case. If G had not told C, I guessed L would have been brainwashed M about C's "bad treatment". Do you think it is right for M to behave this way

Example for 2

Friend C had invited her long-time friends V & Y to her wedding. Friend P was not invited initially as C told P that she had problems with the seating arrangements. P was later added into the list by C's husband, whom P also knew.

At first, P, V & Y wanted to share a gift for C. C told P that she wanted something practical or cash so that she can use it for her house reno. P & V was okay with C's request, but Y thought that jewellery was a practical house reno gift. Y also asked V what budget did V & P in mind for C's wedding gift? V & P said that it was $50. When Y heard that figure, she told V that it was a bit high. To V & P, they feel that $50 is just barely enough to get a household furniture item. To prevent further embarassment that the gift will be too small, P & V told Y that they should get their gifts indivdually instead. We can tell that Y was trying to save $, perhaps for her impending marriage, but is it right for Y to put in such a "reno" & stingy gift for C judging from their long friendship?

Later Y called P and told P that she would not be able to attend C's wedding. P asked Y to talk to C personally about this. Is it right for Y not to attend C's wedding when Y had already given her word about attending in the 1st place? Is it right for Y to call P to ask P to communicate her message to C about her non-attendance? Maybe Y felt that she could save on the angpow or gift by not attending the wedding. Do you think Y is right? Y knew that she was on probation for her new job, so she must be aware that she may not be able to get leave in the 1st place, according to her appointment letter, then why did Y agree to attend C's wedding in the 1st place, only to revoke it later, saying that she can't get leave? What will u do if u were C? Will u invite her for any future gatherings? If u r P or V, would u share gifts with Y or distance yourselves from her?